Designing a life book for your adoptive child or foster child may seem overwhelming, especially when you don't have a lot of information about your child's life before he or she became a part of your family. One of the biggest stumbling blocks is getting past the feeling over being overwhelmed.
Each family that adopts has a different kind of relationship with their birth mother. It can very from one end of the spectrum to the other. For example, I've met families who actually have the birth mother baby sit the child on occasion. Other families meet the birth mom once or twice a year for a visit at a park. Sadly, some families know nothing about their child's birth mom than perhaps her name and city in which she gave birth.
Adoptive families that have more than one adopted child may have one birthmom that is very involved and another that has no contact. Hence, sometimes a birthmom of one child will even send notes or small gifts to the sibling of the child.
When you have a relationship with a birthmom you may have any information you want for your child's adoption book. She may be eager to help out to make sure the child has a wonderful book.
If you don't have very much information about your child's birth or birth family-if any at all-don't worry. You can still design an incredible book that helps your child understand his or her history.
For example, one of the most essential pages of the life book is about the biological mother, but you may not even have a photograph of her. Be sure to include a quotation or poem about how birth moms may feel when making the adoption choice for their child. Then write something for the book like, "Did you know that birth moms and dads give their special DNA to their children. I'll be your beautiful smile and dark eye lashes came from your mom!"
It's hard for most people to imagine, but many adoptive parents don't even know the birthdate of their child or where he or she was born. Rather than writing, "We don't know the date of your birth" in your child' adoption album, journal something along the lines of, "We believe you were born during the winter of 2005 some time because when you came to the orphanage you weighed about the same as the other children born about that time."
Remember, it's the amount of love and effort that you put into the album that your child will most appreciate. As he grows older and asks questions, you can do research together to help answer questions. Until then, don't let a lack of information prevent you from creating a loving adoption scrapbook album for your child. Kids love reading about themselves and even like to make up their own stories to fill in any blanks in the story.
Each family that adopts has a different kind of relationship with their birth mother. It can very from one end of the spectrum to the other. For example, I've met families who actually have the birth mother baby sit the child on occasion. Other families meet the birth mom once or twice a year for a visit at a park. Sadly, some families know nothing about their child's birth mom than perhaps her name and city in which she gave birth.
Adoptive families that have more than one adopted child may have one birthmom that is very involved and another that has no contact. Hence, sometimes a birthmom of one child will even send notes or small gifts to the sibling of the child.
When you have a relationship with a birthmom you may have any information you want for your child's adoption book. She may be eager to help out to make sure the child has a wonderful book.
If you don't have very much information about your child's birth or birth family-if any at all-don't worry. You can still design an incredible book that helps your child understand his or her history.
For example, one of the most essential pages of the life book is about the biological mother, but you may not even have a photograph of her. Be sure to include a quotation or poem about how birth moms may feel when making the adoption choice for their child. Then write something for the book like, "Did you know that birth moms and dads give their special DNA to their children. I'll be your beautiful smile and dark eye lashes came from your mom!"
It's hard for most people to imagine, but many adoptive parents don't even know the birthdate of their child or where he or she was born. Rather than writing, "We don't know the date of your birth" in your child' adoption album, journal something along the lines of, "We believe you were born during the winter of 2005 some time because when you came to the orphanage you weighed about the same as the other children born about that time."
Remember, it's the amount of love and effort that you put into the album that your child will most appreciate. As he grows older and asks questions, you can do research together to help answer questions. Until then, don't let a lack of information prevent you from creating a loving adoption scrapbook album for your child. Kids love reading about themselves and even like to make up their own stories to fill in any blanks in the story.
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